A healthy sex life is important for mental, physical and penile health. For some men, a healthy sex life entails exploring their more eccentric interests. Those who are curious about kinky sex – whether incorporating bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism, fetishes or some combination of these – may want to consider attending a munch.
What is a munch?
A munch is a social event organized by participants of the kink community. These events are generally held in a public place, such as a restaurant or café. Often, attendees enjoy lunch, dinner and/or drinks while talking about various aspects of BDSM or fetish life, or just socializing. Depending on the size of the gathering, the attendees can be expected to represent a range of experience levels and interests. It’s a place for learning, sharing and building a sense of community with other people who have non-traditional sexual leanings. What is a munch not? Generally, munches are not held as “pick up” gatherings – one shouldn’t attend expecting to find a new sexual partner. Although, one might earn an invitation to a sex party, depending on the crowd, or meet someone with whom to explore later.
Is it safe?
Attending a munch is certainly safer than taking up one of those Craigslist casual encounters. It’s held in public, and people who go to them tend to be interested in a close-knit and respectful community. Still, there is always some risk involved when meeting up with strangers. Some may wish to bring a friend or partner.
If one wishes to go alone but has concerns, he can consider contacting the person organizing the event. This person may hold a seat next to him/her and make a special effort to help a guy feel comfortable, introducing him to others and checking in on how he’s feeling throughout the duration of the gathering.
Are some people “too vanilla” for a munch?
No! A munch is not about competition. It’s about welcoming, learning, sharing and making friends. One shouldn’t fear that his interests aren’t “kinky enough” or that he has too little experience to attend a munch. These events are not just for people who have extreme interests or who have acted upon them, but for those who are genuinely curious about kinky sex and may want to learn more about it as well.